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Fad Lifestyles, Gym Newbs…Thinking Out Loud

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My friends I have a lot to think out loud this week, so lets get started right off the bat shall we?

Thanks to the lovely Amanda from Running with Spoons for being the hostess to the mostess.

1. Maggie on my Mind

Here I was saying I’m an adult and everything and was going to be just fine when Rita left, but day 2 it hit me hard. You know that ‘down’ feeling, yeah that was me. I try my hardest to still smile (okay I don’t have to try that hard to smile, its just me) because smiling just makes you feel better, but I would be lying if I said that I didn’t have a bit of a dark cloud floating over me the past few days. It is perfect timing for me to go home this weekend and spend time with my familia and I have to say I just want snuggles…

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Of the puppy variety.

Is it bad that I have been ‘craving’ having a dog a lot recently…Ugh. Come to me money! Or better yet, can I just have one and it not cost me anything and never get sick… ever?

You know you’re desperate when you start wanting a cat just because you want a snuggle friend and they are less baby-like in their needs…

2.The gym is not a playground FYI

Not to sound like a preacher, but for real, take the gym seriously and don’t be an idiot when you come into the gym. I’m going to sound sexist here, but this specifically applies to guys because most often girls will run away to the cardio section when they are not sure (which is not the answer either!) rather then just being plain stupid.

Okay so that was a bit harsh, but I really don’t feel like seeing someone die when I’m in my domain.

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Pardon my lack of spell checkin…slips happen when you are speaking with irritation passion

This most often happens when said individuals are not only newbs but also when they decide to bring their newb friend(s) with them too. Multiples just increase the stupidity that occurs.

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And they just laugh…after they barely rack the bar and the guy crawls out from underneath it.

Just sits there and shakes my head. 

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And when you don’t succeed, try again with more weight? Cuz that makes perfect sense

And fail again. Like actual fail and once again, spotter barely racks it with 50 extra pounds. Unfortunately in cases like this, it generally takes an injury for them to smarten up a bit.

Let me say something before someones like “you talk **it but why didn’t you step in”. One, I wish I could lift 150+lbs just so maybe I could show them up (plus ya ya save their life and everything). And two the spotter did manage to get it on the bottom rung (i.e. two inches from the guys face…).

Please note how there were numerous GUYS around these two and they did nothing…

Speaking of which…

3. Girls vs. Guys

We apparently think very differently. I went over to talk to a gym friend of mine about said newbs and his response to my “They’re freaking me out because I would rather not see someone die this morning…”

You apparently have a bigger heart then me, I would laugh if it fell on their face.

Now before you judge my friend, please note that most guys would have said the same thing. Call it tough love. They are being idiots, so the guys logic is that maybe if they actually loose it, maybe they will learn their lesson…plus get a bit of entertainment.

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Lets be realistic here, guys often get a kick out of seeing other guys pain. 

4.Eating Like a Caveman…

Check out this podcast as this inspired this lil rant thought.

 To the paleo folks, did you know that you have been depriving yourselves?

Of oat gains!

That’s serious.

New research has pointed out the fact that Palaeolithic people did in fact eat grains. BLASPHEMY! In fact, a new paper was published (and discussed in the podcast) on a new tool that was discovered that has traces of a type of oat fiber suggesting that it was used to grind the grains into a flour.

So yeah….Sorry?

They also touched on some other forms of ‘dieting’ that I wanted to mention.

Intermittent Fasting

This is no miracle solution to loosing weight, but rather just a different way to space out your calories for the day. Mr. Dolce happened to mention that he had tried and and felt like absolute crap for the 3 months he was on it.

No PR’s

No Strength

No Energy

Why make life hard on yourself?

Eat something before you train and fuel your body to make gains. Simple as that.

Exception may be for runners who get sick with running on full. Perhaps eating something very quick to digest is best, but go with your gut. Pun intended. 

IIFYM (If It Fits Your Macros)

I discussed a while back about this and what it was actually supposed to address when it was first released but they give great basic information as to why eating whole foods, rather then processed crap, is really how to keep your body weight in check. No, I’m not saying you need to eat clean 100% of the time to maintain your weight, I’m saying that eating wholesome makes a huge difference in satiety and often leaves you eating the calories your body needs. IE. Not in excess.

He said something very real..

Have you ever seen someone sit down and eat 3 apples? Not really. 4 donuts, yes.

The truth is that the satiety of the fiber and water from the apple often leaves you not wanting more due to feeling full and satisfied. The sugary, easy to digest foods leave you feeling unsatisfied and wanting more. Unfortunately, the latter is much higher in calories and can easily put you over your maintenance and lead to weight gain if consistently indulged in.

In other ranting news…

5.Why Do People Still Hate On Carbs.

Ugh I know that education on this topic is not there yet but it kind of infuriates me to hear people saying that I’m cutting carbs to loose weight or body fat.

Guys, no macronutrient (carbs/pro/fat) are the “fat storing macros.” If you go over your calories you will gain weight. You could eat over your cals in lettuce and you would gain weight. Don’t try that though because that may be painful…

Carbs bring with them a lot of water (about equal water per gram of carbs) so often people may reduce them to feel ‘slimmer’ just due to water loss but that is it. It’s not fat you are loosing. ITS WATER!

Okay rant over. Let me unruffle my feathers…

Disclaimer. I’m talking about carbs in general. Some people will avoid all carbs, including natural sources (oats, sweet potatoes, rice, etc) thinking that weight loss will follow. I’m not talking about cereal, sugar, etc

6. Bunny Therapy?

I just discovered that the pet store near my house lets you hold newborn bunnies just because. They just messed up because imma be there ERRYDAY!

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OMG I just can’t get over my joy.

…or over that baby bunny. Uh Oh…

7.The Best Compliment.

“You look like you’re an athlete.”

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This is when strength and athleticism has surpassed aesthetics for the reasons why you work out, you know there is passion there. Find what you love because that is when it will stick and that is when you will progress.

I workout for me because I love it and I love getting stronger. I don’t work out because I feel that is required to have a certain body type.

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Well I’m off to lift real soon, so I’m gunna close it off there. I will be heading out for a nice lil hike post lift with a friend of mine to catch up which will be real nice…and maybe I will drag her back to the bunny shop…

I have a problem okay. At least I admit it.

Happy Thursday Friends!

-Chelsea


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Fuzzy Females…Thinking Out Loud Thursdays

My friends I haven’t been able to document some of my randomness on zee blog in a while but this week there have just been waaaayyyyy too many things that I have actually put some thought into and some of those need to be shared.

Now some of these things may be slightly controversial and I’m not trying to come off as judgemental as, remember, these are my own thoughts. Please don’t get mad with me as I’m just sharing my honest thoughts. I enjoy being open with you all and I hope to start some discussion or maybe just some pondering in your own minds if you’re not ready to jump into the comments section yet.

Thanks to Amanda for the link-up!

1. My Love Goes Out To France.

How much can one place take? Attacked on a national holiday, I cannot begin to understand. My support and love goes out everyone affected. I’m sorry that you have to experience this at all, let alone AGAIN in such a short time span.

2. Hairy Canary…

Okay, so I saw this whole female empowerment movement not too long ago on Facebook discussing how it was unfair that women should be “forced” to shave. Instead, women should be allowed to bare it all….

Fuzzy Pits.

Hairy Legs.

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Then it quieted down. I thought okay, maybe that was a blip of insanity (before you jump all over me, wait until I get to my reasoning..) but nope, it’s back again.

I can’t say I support the whole Cave Woman thing. Sorry ladies.

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If someone were to ask me why I think women should shave I would answer simply with…

“I would feel gross and self-conscious with hair here, there and everywhere”

Notice the use of the word “I”…

I’m not saying that I think every woman SHOULD BE FORCED to shave away her beloved hair if she chooses not to. Go right on ahead and show off an armpit bush if you so choose but I cannot say that I wouldn’t have an automatic feeling of ickness if I saw it.

Sorry I’m just being honest here.

Yes our society has formed the standard that women don’t have hair and must get rid of it if they do. I know this, I was a psych student after all. So I know the power of social media on our own views and attitudes. I just really don’t like it on myself and just cannot stop the immediate uncomfortableness when it has gotten out of hand on a female.

I’m not talking about peach fuzz or “oops forgot to shave on morning” stubble here, I’m talking like long-ass hair mmmkay just so we are on the same page. 

To defend myself, I will say that I’m really not sexist on this topic. I don’t like it on either sex.

Yes. For guys, I don’t like chest hair, stomach hair, arm pit hair that looks like an afro and long back hair. Sorry I just don’t.

Think of the sweat and stank that builds up in there. Ewww. 

To think of not shaving my under arms then wearing a tank just plain grosses me out so therefore…

Team Dare to be Bare.

3. Love Who You Are

I have mentioned her time and time again in my blog but she deserves yet another shoutout for this video in particular. Em Dunc is quite the inspiration and I just love listening to her motivationals.

This one really stuck out to me because it’s about loving your confidence (and other qualities in general) and not being ashamed of it.

I have been very open with how proud I am at how far I have come with my confidence but these days sometimes I feel almost sorry for my confidence. It sounds silly but sometimes you get certain reactions from people who maybe aren’t at the same level of confidence as you are and you start to feel as if you need to tone it down for their sake. Or even worse, feel self-conscious about it!

Emily is so right when she talks about being unapologetic for who she is. She is confident and should never feel bad for it or feel she comes off too strong. That is who she is and if people cannot handle that or appreciate that strength, then they can move along.

I shouldn’t have to tone my personality down for anyone because those who care and love me will appreciate those things about me.

They are strengths not weaknesses. 

3. Gotta Catch’em All…

Is anyone else saddened by the fact that Pokemon Go is getting praise for getting kids active?

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We have stooped to a new low that we need video games to get kids off their asses and away from the TV and computers.

No, kids don’t want to play sports anymore. I have the best memories of playing lava land and grounders and staying out as long as we could to play tennis in the dark with the glow in the dark tennis balls and now, kids don’t even want to go outside.

This was only 15 years ago…

Oh times have changed and I would say for the worst.

Also, its not just the kids. Adults are hooked on this crap too and apparently causing accidents and even dying because of this game.

We have officially lost our minds.

5. Oatlicious?

So guys guess who’s proats are going for profits these days?

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Aww yeah. Even if it’s only for like 2 people, it’s a start and hey I like to bake/cook so why not if they enjoy them enough to pay me for them.

Oh the possibilities.

Many thanks to my friend who actually thought my food was more then decent to chat them up to some co-workers. You the real MVP 😀

What should my new home bakery be called? HA. 

Anyways, tis late now and I’m going to try to relax while listening to the drunk hooligans outside my window in the rain.

#StudentHousingLiving

Hope I got some thinking stirring and if I did, talk up a storm in the comments!

-Chelsea


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Mixed Messages…Thinking Out Loud

Amazing job! You eat those fries and love every moment of it…

How do you eat all those bad foods all the time and not get fat?

It’s okay sweetie, you will conquer that whole pint of ice cream next time.

Hey maybe you should put down that pizza slice, it’s not like you need it..

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#YesIAteTheWholePint #RecoveryForTheWin

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Me and you both.

Linking up with Amanda over at Running With Spoons for this week’s Outloud Thinking.

You know my friends I have struggled with this idea for a while. We are very confusing with our messages about food. Then on top of that, when you throw recovery and what we ‘believe’ that those in recovery should eat in there, well **it just hits the ceiling and makes absolutely no sense.

On one side, we have the general public, who demonizes any food they perceive as unhealthy and condemn those who choose to indulge in them even in moderation.

If you happen to not be a size 2, gawd forbid you have that slice of pizza. You might as well prepare yourself for the long, judgmental conversations that may sound something like this…

Hahaha if I eat that pizza I blow up like a balloon…

Oh I don’t eat that crap, do you know how many calories that has in it…

Oh ya know I will just workout an hour longer tomorrow..#balance (<– this is so wrong btw, don’t do this!)

However, take someone who is recovering from an eating disorder and the conversation takes a completely different direction. Think north pole vs the desert.

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That is amazing, you ate fast food twice today! Recovery win!

I feel so over full right now, but I need to get over that because it’s part of recovery…

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See the difference?

I’m stuck here though. I see this discrepancy so clearly and that is what makes it so frustrating that I don’t have a clue where to even start. Despite knowing that with most eating disorders come fears and those need to be challenged, I also strongly believe that we taken things too far.

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How has it become okay to push things on those in recovery that we normally preach to those not in recovery to push away from? How are we supposed to show that food is just food when we do this?

We are extremists.

Recovery has become something where you are to ‘challenge’ yourself to eat in a way that we normally try to prevent.

You should feel comfortable with being stuffed if you’re in recovery, but you should feel slightly hungry if you’re not.

You should feel proud of tackling that Mc.D’s twice in one day if you’re in recovery but feel disgusting and bad about yourself if you choose to have a burger once and a while.

We are being completely contradictory with our messages. Food is food and shouldn’t be different for one group of people over another.

Another issue is this also puts pressure on individuals regardless of what “category” they fall into.

If you’re in recovery and you’re not going to those extremes you may feel (or others may feel) as if you’re not progressing. Likewise, further agitation can occur because if you feel that pressure to push yourself waaayyyy out of your comfort zone, it may create even worse association with certain foods.

On the flip side…

Those who do not fall into that category may feel the need to almost hide food when they are wanting or eating something ‘dirty,’ especially if they are overweight.

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You can’t win. Both sides are negative, so then, what the heck do we do about it?

Truth is my friends, I’m tackling a slightly controversial issue here and honestly I don’t know what we can do about it.

I know that we need more consistency somewhere. The same food can not be good for one person but bad for another.

For those in recovery, we still need to challenge food fears so that food can be eaten without second thoughts or guilt. However, this needs to be balanced with not pushing so hard that it pushes them out of normalcy.

Cheering for someone to make them finish an entire pint of ice cream is not normal. This shouldn’t be dubbed a ‘recovery win.’ IMO

If they want the whole pint then thats different because it’s what they want to do but there is also the issue that sometimes with eating disorders comes binge eating….another challenge, another discussion. 

Isn’t the point of recovery to reach normalize eating? 

Again, on the other side, for those not in the ED category, normal eating should include those foods they are craving once and a while and the should be able to eat until they are satisfied. This is regardless of what weight you are at weight status should not dictate whether you are allowed to have certain foods on occasion (Yes I realize there are some exceptional cases but you get my point).

So, to sum things up, we have created a big, hot mess. Our messages about food are wrong and, to be honest, the way that we try to challenge food fears in the clinical population can ultimately lead to further eating issues (like binge eating) or just worsen fears even more because they are just too much.

Just my thoughts.

What do you think?

-Chelsea


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Friday Favourites

My Friends!

Happy Friday My Peeps.

Whats new?

This Friday I am loving a few things and that all starts off with the fact that…

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What are friends?

Just kidding. This exam period didn’t try to run me over with a truck this year and I’m so thankful that it was super relaxing. I had a total of two (unheard of for me!) and they were a week apart so I had the time to enjoy the beautiful weather that last weekend brought us with my housies.

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So much love for them you have no idea. ❤

After all of it is said and done, I can say that my easy-peasy approach never led me to one of these moments…

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Speaking of friends

I had a lil buddy for my ice cream tonight…

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Adrian’s choice was spiderman –> mix of bubble gum and fruity flavours. The kids like the colourful ones I suppose.

My friend Rebecca’s lil cutie, Audrina. She literally would not let her Mom take her bowl away until she drank it all. Like ALL of it. So funny…

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She’s got good taste in ice cream 😉

As for me, they brought my caramel Skor gelato back and so got that on top of my usual salty caramel because we all know that dat flavour ain’t going anywhere until they take it away from me…

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More Ice Cream?

This…I need this! Holy moly I have wanted to try the cashew milk ones (apparently even better then the coconut milk varieties which are pretty good, almond milk ones…not so much and soy…no thanks), but omg the caramel make me officially get on it…

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…and I don’t need to say much about this…

Grilling.

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New BBQ (err. Dad’s…). First grill of the season. First halibut steaks of the season. Nuff said.

My job is intriguing me.

Despite the fact that I don’t get much time off, as I start my ‘job’ on Monday, I’m thinking my summa will still be pretty easy going.  I previously mentioned, I believe (?) that I got a job in Guelph doing research that had a component of nutrition. SO, I snagged that baby as fast as I could because a position in dietetics that isn’t volunteer is hard to come by! Anywho, basically after breaking down her research focus, I will be looking into couple concordance in health behaviours and interest in health interventions and early prevention/screening tools. In other words, does your significant other affect whether or not you would do a new screening for a given disease or whether or not you follow certain health behaviours? Cool eh?

On top of all of that, I get to do my work when and wherever I want just as long as I get it done and it’s full time paid work. I’m getting paid to do literature reviews on what makes people do things for their health!

Can I say winning yet?

I’m content. 😀

Finally, speaking of research, I came across an interesting article today on Facebook and decided to share…

Metabolic Damage…Again. 

I know I have touched on this topic time and time again, but heres to giving you another resource to take a peak at if you are still on the fence and not ready to drop the cardio and eat all the foods your body is crying out for.

A damaged metabolism does more then just make loosing weight nearly impossible (and fat gain possibly…well, possible). Classic symptoms of your body being overly stressed including digestive upset (bloating, indigestion, etc), water retention, fatigue, etc are all very common and just plain annoying if you ask me. Furthermore, more serious things such as the loss in the ability to absorb some of your nutrients (because your gut is A-N-G-R-Y) and chronically high levels of cortisol (hello fat gain and overtaxed organs) also happen and are not things to mess around with.

So without going back into it, I will conclude with saying…

Eat more then 1200 calories because that doesn’t mean you loose weight, it often means you gain it.

The longer you starve yourself, the longer it’s going to take to heal

This same goes for cardio. More cardio is not better. More cardio just means more fixing later. Do as little as you can to simply keep your ticker tickin.

No hour to two hour treadmill or stair steppin session mmmkay?

So yeah, I hope you had a great Friday. Good luck with any left over exams for my fellow students and have a great weekend my friends!

-Chelsea


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Is Snackin A Bad Thing?

My friends,

Happy Thursday, hope you are all having a great week so far and that all my American friends are enjoying the start of their WEEK OFF (practically) for Thanksgiving. 

#TurkeyGainz

Forgive me for being slightly jealous of the fact that we Canadians get a whole THREE days for Thanksgiving while you guys get like a year off…

There was a thought I was having over the past few days and it involves snacking.

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I hear all the time that people feel they need to stop snacking in order to gain control of their weight.

But..

Is snacking really a bad thing?

Does snacking lead to excessive eating and gaining weight?

Short answer is maybe.

Snacking in general is not bad. If you’re feeling hungry, EAT! That is your body saying that it’s out of fuel and needs more. In these cases, if you’re in that mid afternoon slump and your tummy starts rumbling at you, never second guess nibblin away on something to satiate you until your next meal.

Good ideas?

Something with a lil protein, lil carbs and lil fat. Try to get at least 2 of the 3 macronutrients in a snack (3 for meals). Balance folks!

~Greek yogurt + berries (or granola)

~Healthy, homemade goodies like muffins, bars or cookies

~Veggies and dips like hummus

~Homemade trail mix (nuts for some fats, some oat clusters for some carbs, etc) over some cottage cheese or greek yogurt

So I can snack my life away then?

Short answer, probably not.

These are my own thoughts, keep that in mind.

As I just talked about, I have no qualms with snacking when you’re hungry and the next meal is quite a bit of time in the future. No point in starving yourself for the simple reason of ‘I shouldn’t be snacking.’

On the other hand, I really don’t believe in snacking all day. Here’s my thoughts:

For one, if you snack all the time, you are never really satisfied. You grab a few spoonfuls of this, handfuls of that and walk away only to find yourself back with your head in the cupboards or fridge 20 minutes later.

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I think I legit laughed at this picture for a good 5 minutes. That face!

This not only makes it so that you can’t get anything done because you’re still hungry but it also means that food is on your mind 24/7 and that’s not healthy either. You should be able to eat to the point where you feel satisfied and nourished and then you can move on with your life and get something else done.

The second thing is that I find that the types of ‘snacks’ when someone is just mindlessly snacking are different then when they may have packed a pick-me-up for that “just in case I’m hungry”scenario. Snacking all day tends to be on whatever you may be craving at that moment and what is just right in front of you.

Hello peanut butter jar…5 tbsp later..

3-4 spoons of ice cream becomes 8…9…15…

A handful of chips becomes the whole bag…

What I’m getting at here is that when you are simply snacking, you don’t really give much thought to it and things start to add up because you are not feeling satisfied (probably due to the lil amount, the fact that generally it’s only 1 macro group, etc) and just keep going back for more bits n’bites.

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The last thing I want to mention is once again a byproduct of not being satisfied…

Eating when you’re not actually hungry.

This can be a big problem if it’s done all the time. Yes, sometimes we eat when we aren’t hungry and that’s okay. Thats part of being human and often part of the social scene. On the other hand, if you do this as a daily thing, your calories may go over what you need and therefore lead to weight gain.

That is when snacking becomes detrimental and some changes should be made. **In my opinion…

So why do we snack when we’re not hungry?

This was really the thing that I was thinking about over the past few days because I was reading and hearing about individuals expressing concerns about their snacking habits.

So what do I think?

People are lacking balance.

Balance is having a variety of the macronutrients on your plate. Balance is having a full, satisfying meal…on a plate…not from a spoon and feeling satisfied.

Having a handful of dry cereal or granola is not balance, it’s just carbs.

Eating peanut butter straight from the jar multiple times a day is not balance, it’s mostly just fat.

Grabbing from your lil candy stash leftover from Halloween as an afternoon snack is not balance, instead, it’s just a recipe for binge eating on sugar. 

I honestly believe that people, especially my fellow students just don’t have the patience to make and sit down to a MEAL and turn to snacking to get them through the day. Then they complain that they are gaining weight and don’t know why.

This mindless snacking could be more harmless if the foods chosen were whole foods like vegetables and proteins, but lets be real, most people are not going to raiding their fridge for carrots. The former would often stop you from going overboard because of the fiber (in the veggie’s case) and the filling nature of proteins. What is often the issue is that snacks are more processed and just lead to wanting to eat more.

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Wow I have talked for a long time (hello 1000 word post already…). To sum it all up, I tend to swing more towards meals, with snacking being left in between if they are needed. Meals are more likely to strike that balance of having carbs/protein/fats in one spot and that leaves you feeling much more satisfied as your body is getting a bit of everything rather then feeling like it’s missing something. That “I need something else” feeling is what drives that need to shovel something else in your mouth to compensate.

So do yourself a favour. Take a break and eat a meal. A sit-down, filling meal that you can enjoy and then move on to non-food related matters. Ie. live your life.

Jumping into Thinking Out Loud hosted by the lovely Amanda, whose post actually was one of the things that inspired this lil chattering.

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Whatcha think?

Do you snack?

Do you prefer snacking or mealin’?

 -Chelsea


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Support Makes You Strong

Trees.

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We see those huge, beautiful trees as something so strong. Something so proud. Something so rooted in its place in this earth.

Trees not only provide us with the breathes of life, but they also provide support for the many ecosystems that surround them.

You know what though?

A tree wouldn’t be able to serve those purposes if it wasn’t for the aid of the system around it.

It wouldn’t be around without the pollinators that spread those very seeds that brought it to life.

It wouldn’t be alive still without the microorganisms that break down organic materials to give it nourishment.

So if something that is the picture of strength and wisdom needs support to be able to keep thriving, why is it that when we ask for help we perceive ourselves as being weak?

Everyone needs support, whatever magnitude that may be. Asking for help NEVER signifies that you are incapable. Never says to others that you are a failure.

Sometimes, asking for help can make you one of the strongest people out there.

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So you may be asking yourself why the hell I’m rambling on about this. It’s pretty random.

Well I am random….

I’m also randomly bringing this up because it’s something that I have had to come to accept throughout my recovery process.

I never used to like asking for help. I’m an internalizer and so I tend to keep my thoughts, worries, conflicts, etc to myself because I feel like they were my own issues to deal with

Why burden someone else with my problems if ….

…they only affect me…

The problem with that statement is two fold.

For one, I have associated negativity with the love, comfort and support that another person can give to me. Basically,  I felt as if providing me with support was some sort of favour they were doing for me or that they felt pity on me so they would do it not because they wanted to, but because they felt compelled to.

I have come to realize that this is not true. People don’t want to see you struggle. I have this urge in my self to speak up and help others if I feel I can in any way. I think sometimes I should refrain as I may be overstepping my boundaries, but the point is that we don’t like to see others hurt or stuck in a state of confusion if they don’t have to be.

The second issue is that second part. “It only affects me.” This is far from the truth because if you are struggling, the chances are that it will negatively impact anything further you try to do because you are occupied. You’re stuck either dwelling on something, hurting or just not knowing what move to make next. This inevitably affects not only you but anything else you try to do and anyone else you try to interact with.

So what does all of of this have to do with recovery?

I think that this is an important lesson for everyone to learn, regardless of their struggles in life…

You must learn and accept that one has be vulnerable in order to grow as a person.

But this vulnerability becomes even more important during recovery as you have to come to the realization that sometimes you’re just too tired to keep fighting and it’s in those moments where ED feels that he can creep back in a take you back.

It is in those instances where you need to ask yourself…

Does strength mean risking my recovery because I should be able to continue to fight when I’m completely mentally exhausted?

Or

Does strength mean admitting to someone else that you are having a rough time and just need a lil bit of support so that you can re-charge and blast forward once again?

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I know what my answer would be, what is yours?

 Linking up once again to Julia’s…

recovery-round-up-lord-still-loves-me-link-up…on this cold ‘gah it’s officially winter’ Monday.

Thank you so much to Julia for hosting such a positive and helpful resource partaay.

Have a great start to your week friends!

When was the last time you asked for support? this weekend when I ranted on discussed my struggles this week with body image with my Mom.

Who is your go-to? My Mom ❤

-Chelsea


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All In The Family…W[We]AW

Hey Friends!

I thought this week that I would not only share my own eats but also my parents just because I’m that kind of daughter who asks her parents to stop before they dig into their food to take a picture of it first…

Or instagram…

Or blog…

The wise words of my father

BUT

He thoughtfully followed my request and even went one step further and tried to make them look pretty and put togetherexcept the breakfast and well…the blurriness, but please excuse his photography skills as he works shift work and no one should be up at 4am in the morning. You understand.

Also, much to my amazement, my Mom even remembered to take a picture of all but one of her food items of the day. The one she missed I was prepared for because I happened to make it for her and so I snapped it. 😉

#WhenYourDaughterKnowsYouThatWell.

So lets get to it. This was done last Thursday as I not only wanted to give you a rest day for myself, but also a day where all three of us were working! I hope you enjoy.

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I was going to say thanks to Jen for hosting but again this week I’m not really sure where the link-up is :-O.

Oh wait, found it…

Thanks Laura!

Phew that was a close call! I actually snapped this week!

Dad Breaky

Again sorry for the blur. Dad crawls out of bed at just before 4am and noms on some plain toast, egg whites, fruit (probably with greek yogurt) and his orange pekoe tea with some 2% milk

I have a lot people asking if my parents eat like I do and the answer is no. My Dad says that no one eats like me because I’m an extremist LOL! Overexaggeration much.

Mom's breaky eaten around 9:30am. Loads of Raisins (Loblaws brand of Raisin Bran. My Mom insists it has more raisins then the brand name) + All Bran + tbsp of flax meal + frozen strawberries and 2% milk

Mom’s breaky eaten around 9:30am. Loads of Raisins (Loblaws brand of Raisin Bran. My Mom insists it has more raisins then the brand name) + All Bran + tbsp of flax meal + frozen strawberries and 2% milk

But for serious, no. I’m very particular when it comes to my food and I like to eat pretty much everything (very few exceptions) completely from scratch. It’s just what I like (yes I do actually love and crave whole foods, crazy eh?). They opt to eat out more and keep things mostly simple (where I would find that boring) when they are cooking for themselves. For this summer though, I have been home so I have literally cooked 90% of their dinners for them and some of their lunches when I’m around during the day. Therefore, veggies have appeared on their plates much more then their bellies are used to.

Chelsea breaky

My breaky of zoats eaten around 7:45am. Because it was a rest day, my fats go up and my carbs go down a bit. It’s just how I do things. So some of the typical add-ins such as peanut flour, zucchini, chia seeds and egg whites are still there, but my fruit (banana normally gets swapped for berries but I was really feeling nanner so I beat ED down and had a small piece of that) and fat choices (coconut oil rather then nut butter) change and I add a protein icing (Diesel whey in salted caramel + US cashew milk) like I do with my post-workout zoat bowls. Finally, my new addiction is cracking pink Himalayan sea salt all over the top. OMG so good and I’m normally not a salt person at all!

Sometimes I feel like their parents when a conversation like this happens…

Chelsea has to work…

Me: What are you planning on having for dinner?

Pizza…

Me: Sigh. What veggies are you having -> remember it was my goal to have them have a veggie on their plate for every dinner this summer!

We are having a veggie pizza…

Me: A mushroom and tomato doesn’t count as a serving of vegetables!

You’re not supposed to have vegetables with your pizza. Pizza is meant to be eaten so that you don’t have to cook!

Me: I prepped you a salad. Eat the damn salad.

Dad obeys bitterly, Mom doesn’t so she gets the long green finger (Grinch anyone?) and the evil eye from her orange green thumb child.

Story of my life.

Dad's 'lunch' happens on his first break around 9:30. He normally has a packed lunch that is often leftovers or something I put together but I happened to be in whole foods the day before and made him a special box of goodies. Potato wedges, Moroccan chicken (which I snuck a bite or 5 of and was delish) and some veggies. + Red delicious apple. Do you notice how he made the photo all pretty even at work? No shame. Dawww.

Dad’s ‘lunch’ happens on his first break around 9:30am. He normally has a packed lunch that is often leftovers or something I put together but I happened to be in whole foods the day before and made him a special box of goodies. Potato wedges, Moroccan chicken (which I snuck a bite or 5 of and was delish) and some veggies. + Red delicious apple. Do you notice how he made the photo all pretty even at work? No shame. Dawww.

Other readers ask how I eat the way I do at home. They often tell me that their parents cook things that they don’t really want to eat and don’t really know what to do about it.

In my mind it’s quite simple. Cook your own food.

My lunch eaten around 12:30 before I had to head into work. Salad + pizza omlete that contained all the grilled veggies, grilled squash, lobster (spoiled yes ;-)) and dat runny yolk! Seasoned with Mrs. Dash chipotle seasoning and chili flakes.

My lunch eaten around 12:30 before I had to head into work. Salad + ‘pizza’ omelet that contained all the grilled veggies, grilled squash, lobster (spoiled yes ;-)), sprouts, spinach, avocado and dat runny yolk! Seasoned with Mrs. Dash chipotle seasoning and chili flakes.

I then get one of two replies back.

1. My parents get mad if I cook something else.

2. My parents get offended if I don’t eat their food.

For one, you are an adult and I feel as if your parents should be perfectly content with you making your own food. The only reason why they should get angry is if you refuse their food and want them to go out of their way to cook you something else.

If you offer to cook your own meals, there shouldn’t be a problem in my opinion.

My Mom's lunch that I made for her as I ran out the door for work. Eaten around 1:30pm. I made her a toasted lil wrap with chicken, lettuce, spinach, yum yum pickles, sprouts and mustard. Side of a donut peach that she had never tried before.

My Mom’s lunch that I made for her as I ran out the door for work. Eaten around 1:30pm. I made her a toasted lil wrap with chicken, lettuce, spinach, yum yum pickles, sprouts and mustard. Side of a donut peach that she had never tried before.

The second one is a bit trickier, however, should still be completely manageable. You need to sit down with them and have a discussion as to why you want to have your own food rather then what the family is eating. Explain to them that it’s not that you don’t like their cooking, but instead, frame it in a way that you have goals you want to obtain so you have different needs OR you could frame it in a way that you want to learn to cook for yourself, as once again, you’re an adult and being able to cook is a life skill that needs to be learned.

Don’t over think it. Who knows, they might not even bat an eye if you choose to start cooking. Even better, offer to cook the family dinner one time instead and share your new skills and foods with them.

Dad's second break snackie which I believe is early afternoon (he works 10 hour shifts). Another piece of fruit (nectarine in this case) and a bought muffin. Normally he has melba toast with cheese but we didn't have any of his toasties. Damnit who did groceries this week...oh wait that's me... Also take note how he is showing you how much water he drinks!

Dad’s second break snackie which I believe is early afternoon (he works 10 hour shifts). Another piece of fruit (apple in this case, but nectarines/peaches are common) and a cranberry muffin he bought. Normally he has melba toast with cheese but we didn’t have any of his toasties. Damnit who did groceries this week?…oh wait that’s me…
Also take note how he is showing you how much water he drinks!

I never get why some feel the need to eat food they don’t want just because that is what everyone else is eating. Maybe I’m just annoying that way, but I have no qualms about making and/or bringing my own food because I need to ensure I meet my nutritional needs.

Your parents, housemates, boyfriends, whoever wants pizza…

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Dad and his blurry pictures again. You guessed it, pizza night with their ‘veggie’ pizza. Mom had 3 pieces with no veggies (shame on you Mom!) and Dad had his salad that I forced him to eat with shaker cheese along with his zzzaaa.

…doesn’t automatically mean that you have to then eat pizza if you don’t want to. Take that opportunity to make whatever your are craving.

My Dinner at work. Grilled acorn squash and arctic char with my homemade pesto. Side of salad in an insert made at work (because who preps a salad when they work in a kitchen?) and a lil throw together dressing.

My dinner at work. Grilled acorn squash and arctic char with my homemade pesto. Side of salad in an insert made at work (because who preps a salad when they work in a kitchen?) and a lil throw together dressing.

So yeah. My parents and I don’t eat alike at all. In fact, these pictures may look like we are polar opposites, but despite our differences, there are no fights and such over food and what people are having because we eat what we all like and that should be all that really matters right?

To conclude, here’s the photos that didn’t make the commentary. Ie snackage.

Not snackage. I have gotten my Mom into the ACV shot habit firs thing in the morning (despite her still gaggin on it). She says that it has really helped her sinuses clear up more which then leads to less pressure on her migraine-prone head! Win for vinegar :-D

Not snackage. I have gotten my Mom into the ACV shot habit firs thing in the morning (despite her still gaggin on it). She says that it has really helped her sinuses clear up more which then leads to less pressure on her migraine-prone head! Win for vinegar 😀

The daily Tim's run. Yes I still have to have it even on work days.

The daily Tim’s run. Yes I still have to have it even on work days.

My nightly pudding + Questie. You have seen enough of those eh? If you must know, Questbar flavour of the evening was peanut butter supreme…toasted. Mental image of hot, nutty goodness with a slight toasty exterior is implanted into your minds…

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The before dinner drinks. My Dad’s beer and my Mom has her cooler drink things.

With their drinks, when I’m at home I usually start my dinner (aka eat my salad) during their drink time. No, I don’t drink, but I can still enjoy their company. See you can be around alcohol and not feel the need to have it (once again, this is if you don’t want it but feel bad about being the one not drinking). No feelings are hurt in the process and no judgements are made.

My Mom's before dinner drink of choice

My Mom’s before dinner drink of choice

My unpictured fish oils and random chicken I chomped on at work between rushes

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Mom showing you that she drinks her water too!

So that’s that. Eat what you want and don’t be so concerned about how others will feel about you eating differently. Most often they are simply curious as to what’s in your bowl/container/plate.

So that was a full day of eating for the whole workin famjam. I hope you enjoyed this style of post and commentary and have a great humpday my friends!

Do you eat similar things to those who live with you?

-Chelsea